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Age-by-age chore list, 4 to 14
Sixty jobs sorted by what a child can genuinely finish alone — and a quick way to tell which ones you’re still doing out of habit.
Most chore lists are organised around what a parent wants done. That’s a reasonable place to start and a terrible place to stop, because it produces lists full of jobs a child can begin and not one they can finish. A job a child can’t finish alone isn’t a chore — it’s a supervision session with extra steps.
What follows is sorted the other way round: by what a child can actually complete without an adult standing there. Ages are a guide, not a verdict. You know which of these your child could do tomorrow.
The test: could they finish it without you in the room?
Before adding anything to a list, ask one question: could they get from start to finished without me in the room? Not perfectly. Not as fast as you. Just finished.
If the answer is no, the job isn’t wrong — it’s early. Break it into the part they can own (carry the dry washing to the sofa) and the part you keep (fold the fitted sheet). Hand over the rest later. Children lose interest in jobs where they can never quite reach the end, and they lose interest fast.
A job a child can’t finish alone isn’t a chore. It’s a supervision session with extra steps.
Ages 4 to 6: jobs with a visible end
At this age a job needs a visible end state. “Tidy up” has no edges; “put all the bricks in the blue box” does. Expect help to be genuinely helpful about half the time, and count the other half as training.
| Job | Why it fits | Roughly |
|---|---|---|
| Feed the pet | One scoop, one bowl, obvious when done | 2 min |
| Match clean socks | A puzzle before it’s a chore | 5 min |
| Water the houseplants | Visible, and hard to get badly wrong | 5 min |
| Put toys in one named box | Has an edge — “all the bricks”, not “tidy up” | 5 min |
| Carry light shopping in | Real contribution, no skill needed | 5 min |
| Put dirty clothes in the basket | The first “your own mess” habit | 1 min |
| Wipe a low table | A cloth and a surface they can reach | 3 min |
Ages 7 to 9: jobs with a sequence
Around seven, children can hold a two- or three-step sequence without being walked through it. This is the age most household jobs genuinely open up, and the age a chore list starts saving you time rather than costing it.
| Job | Why it fits | Roughly |
|---|---|---|
| Set and clear the table | A sequence with a clear finish | 5 min |
| Take the bins out | Whole-household job, genuinely useful | 5 min |
| Sort the recycling | Sorting rules are learnable and checkable | 10 min |
| Make their own bed properly | Now achievable to a real standard | 3 min |
| Unload the dishwasher | Knows where things live | 10 min |
| Tidy a shared room to a photo | A photo of “done” removes the argument | 10 min |
| Wipe down the bathroom sink | Small area, visible result | 5 min |
Ages 10 to 12: jobs you stop checking
Ten to twelve is when you should be actively withdrawing. If you’re still inspecting a job they’ve done fifty times, the inspection has become the chore. Pick two or three jobs and stop checking them entirely — announce that you’re doing it, so they notice the trust.
| Job | Why it fits | Roughly |
|---|---|---|
| Vacuum a whole floor | Stamina and coverage, not skill | 20 min |
| Load and run the dishwasher | Judgement about what goes where | 10 min |
| Wash the car | Big, satisfying, obviously worth paying for | 30 min |
| Prepare a simple meal | Real responsibility, real usefulness | 30 min |
| Do their own laundry load | Machine literacy, and their mess | 15 min |
| Weed a flower bed | Outdoor, definable, nobody wants it | 20 min |
| Walk the dog alone | Trust plus a fixed route | 20 min |
Ages 13 and up: jobs that are actually yours
Teenagers should own whole areas rather than tasks. “Tuesday dinner” is a better assignment than six cooking-adjacent chores, because owning an outcome is the thing that transfers to adult life. Expect the negotiation to get sophisticated. That’s the point.
| Responsibility | Why it fits | Roughly |
|---|---|---|
| Cook one dinner a week | Owns planning, not just execution | 45 min |
| Mow the lawn | Equipment, judgement, whole-job ownership | 40 min |
| Run a weekly shop errand | Budget, list, change, decisions | 30 min |
| Babysit a younger sibling | Genuine trust, genuinely worth paying | 2 hrs |
| Manage all their own laundry | Full handover of a category | ongoing |
| Deep-clean the bathroom | Unpleasant, thorough, clearly paid work | 30 min |
How many is too many
Three recurring jobs per child. That’s it, to start. A list of twelve looks thorough on Sunday and is being ignored by Wednesday, and a list that’s being ignored teaches the opposite of what you wanted: that the system is theatre and nobody’s really counting.
Add a fourth only once the first three have run for a month without reminders. It’s slower than you want and it’s the only version that survives past the novelty.